Q&A on LET'S HAVE DINNER AND TALK ABOUT MONEY

Questions by Sarah Fontaine | Answers by Jennifer Armbrust

 

What can we do in a group?

We can share, we can empathize, we can build compassion, we can feel connected, we can help each other, we can share resources, we can learn from each other, we can laugh, we can build relationships. We can make jokes, forge a shared history, we can build community, we can meet each others’ needs, we can grow and expand our minds and souls.

 

What do we have to lose?

We only have our stories to lose. The stories we tell ourselves and others about who we are. The stories that are a reflection of our ego, not our soul. The stories that we use to structure our friends and family and finances and work and day-to-day lives. The myth of who we think we are. The myth of who we’re afraid we are. The myth of who we pretend to be. One could lose their sense of power and efficacy, their identity in telling the truth about money. All that we have to lose is who we think we are or who we would like to be. We cannot lose ourselves. We can lose the people we were using to hold up the pillars of our narratives, though.

 

What do you want to say?

I want to say that it’s okay to be confused or to not know about money. It’s okay to be making mistakes. It’s okay to feel crippled by the weight of it. It’s okay to revel in abundance. It’s okay to have shame. It’s okay to have whatever feeling you have with money, whatever history you have with money, whatever future you have with money. Money is neutral. It’s not antagonistic. Money is a tool. Anything/everything is okay with money. The only thing that’s not okay is to keep going to sleep and staying unconscious. (And also, I believe that rampant greed is not okay. But I'm not sure the problem with greed is money. I think the root of it may be... something else.)

 

What do you NOT want this to be?

A drunken rollicking sarcastic feast where people’s fears step in and derail the conversation and turn it into a dinner party party.
 

Describe the feeling of what you want the dinner to be.

The feeling should be YES, wow, ow, oh, definitely, whoa, & thank you, friends. Also—warm, safe, inviting, grounded, cozy, friendly, loving, loved, provocative, surprisingly deep, honest, compassionate, empathetic, patient, accepting, not judging, open, communicative, thoughtful, heartfelt, energizing, inspiring. Guests should feel guided through an experience, taken care of, and empowered.

Posted on October 20, 2014 .